10 Questions Diet – coming soon!

passionflower-1643154_1280How would it feel, if one day you would be able to stick to your healthy eating plan, follow it through and know, that this time you are going to succeed and that in a few months you will look and feel fantastic.

How would it be to know that there will be no setbacks and the weight you lost will never come back.

10 Questions Diet will help you do just that.

Anna Storey was a trainee psychotherapist when she realized, that in a course of her personal therapy she has not only got rid of old psychological blocks, that were holding her back, but has also lost some weight and has dramatically changed her diet.
Later, working with clients in her private practice, Anna has noticed the same things happening to some of her clients.

Are you tired of dieting?

Have you tried and failed to lose weight?

Maybe a diet worked for you at first, but then you just put all that weight back on again?

Losing weight isn’t easy – otherwise, why would overweight people continue to put up with prejudice, disapproval and feelings of guilt and shame?

In fact, almost one in four adults in England is classified as obese.

There is no genetic explanation why some people are unable to regulate their food intake. Research indicates that the answer may lie in our emotional relationship with food.

It may not be real hunger that pushes us to reach for second helpings, but actually a response to an emotional need elsewhere, which is nothing to do with food.

This book will offer you 10 questions to explore, think about and answer as honestly as possible. The answers will help you find out what your relationship with food really is.

You will think about why you want to go on a diet now and how thin do you want to be.

We will explore your dieting history.

You will discover what your weight means to you. You will visualize yourself being thin and see how you feel about it.

We will discuss the role food played in your family– what messages did you get from your parents about eating or not eating? What cultural attitudes to food were predominant? How were overweight people regarded?

As a result, you will learn to start listening to your body, to recognize your emotional needs and find other ways of fulfilling them, rather than overeating.

Instead of fighting your body, you will begin to live in harmony with it, and to enjoy your newfound energy and drive.

Getting Into Shape After Having A Baby

happy selfGETTING INTO SHAPE AFTER HAVING A BABY

One of the most common problems facing new mums is losing weight after having a baby. I can remember discussing various diets with my girlfriends and looking forward to recovering my pre-baby body. I also remember really struggling with being on a diet and not quite succeeding. My friend’s experiences are quite similar to mine. So why do diets so often don’t work? I did not get my answers until quite a few years later when I was seeing clients as a counsellor and having counselling myself.

If you are looking after a lively toddler (or two!), you might be craving food because you are tired, not because you are hungry. Before starting on yet another diet, which is likely to make you even more exhausted, it is worth asking yourself a few simple questions: Why am I reaching for food now? Am I tired? Sleepy? Just need some comfort? There are many other ways of fulfilling these needs rather than food.

Losing weight isn’t easy – otherwise, why would overweight people continue to put up with prejudice, disapproval and feelings of guilt and shame?
In fact, almost one in four adults in England is classified as obese.
There is no genetic explanation why some people are unable to regulate their food intake. Research indicates that the answer may lie in our emotional relationship with food.
It may not be real hunger that pushes us to reach for second helpings, but actually a response to an emotional need elsewhere, which is nothing to do with food.
Well known weight loss companies have for many years successfully used group counselling techniques to help people lose weight.
In my practice, I work with clients on resolving emotional blocks that prevent them from achieving their perfect weight.
During sessions we first find out what the client’s relationship with food really is. What does he or she feel just before reaching for food? And what about after? What do they say to themselves when they overeat?
Next, we explore what being overweight means to my client. We experiment with my clients seeing themselves thin and imagining how their life is going to change as the result.
We discuss the role food played in a family of origin – what messages were given by parents about eating or not eating? What cultural attitudes to food were predominant? How were overweight people regarded?

If you would like to lose weight, start noticing when you overeat – do you reach for biscuits when you are tired? Upset? Anxious? Is there anything you can do to deal with your emotional discomfort instead of eating? Paying attention to and resolving a psychological issue is a way to loose weight for good, much more effective than a crush diet (which is likely to make you even more stressed and irritable).

Taking supplements might also help you lose weight after pregnancy. Certain food cravings indicate that your body is lacking vitamins or minerals. For instance, if you can’t live without peanut butter, it means that your vitamin B intake is insufficient. Taking a supplement instead of dipping into the jar will greatly improve your waistline!
Craving cheese is often a sign of Calcium and Phosphorus deficiency. Try taking a supplement or eating more broccoli – it is high in calcium and phosphorus and has a lot less calories than cheese.
If you need comfort food when you are stressed – give Omega 3 a try and make sure you take it for at least a month. Essential Fatty Acids improve brain functioning and might make you feel calmer and clear the brain fog.

Quite often food cravings are not a sign of a particular vitamin shortage, but just indicate that you need rest. One client complained that she was a chocolate addict and could not get rid of the habit. A born perfectionist, she could never take a break and relax, so the chocolate for her became a substitute for a good rest.

Research indicates that overweight people, who try, but don’t manage to loose weight, often don’t have clear motivation. So when you decide to loose some weight, first ask yourself – how thin would you like to be? What does being thin means for you? Do you know your ideal weight and have a clear plan of how to reach it? Otherwise, your weight loss program will become just another exercise in self-criticism and low self-esteem.

Don’t blame yourself for an occasional chocolate or second helpings. Internal criticism is not likely to stop you eating too much, but will definitely make you feel bad and as a result – more comfort eating! Pay attention to your feelings and look after yourself, then you will not only achieve your perfect weight, but also learn to live in harmony with your body.

Anna Storey at www.annastorey-counselling.com

New Year Resolutions

NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS – HOW TO HAVE LOTS OF ENERGY AND LOSE WEIGHT

If you are looking for an inspiring reading to help you live through your New Year Resolutions, I can really recommend
The Bulletproof Diet by David Asprey.
It contains all the advice you need on healthy eating, supplements, sleep hacks and lots more!
www.bulletproofexec.com

ARE YOU REALLY OVERWEIGHT?

gymnastics-1951237_1280Have you tried and failed to loose weight? You started on a popular new diet, cutting out all the things you enjoy eating, lost a few kilos, then, after a stressful day at work, came home and had a pack of biscuits at once. Diet failed, you felt even more miserable and desperate than when you started.
After several similarly unsuccessful attempts you just gave up, hating yourself for the lack of will power.

Try to look at it differently.
Losing weight is not about dieting, depriving yourself of your favorite foods and feeling miserable. It is also not about trying to become someone else – a thin model in a magazine or a celebrity. To really loose weight you have to engage in a slow process of becoming yourself – learning to take care of your needs and listen to your body, starting to like yourself a bit more. As a counsellor, I would agree with the view of Ayurvedic medicine, which states that obesity is often an external manifestation of our emotional problems.
I would not even call this process “loosing weight”. It implies loss and has a negative connotation. I would rather say “getting into shape”, finding your natural weight and staying that way.

So where do we start?
For a start, I would advise to do what in psychotherapy is called “a reality check”. This means looking at your fantasies, anxieties and assumptions and seeing “what is really happening”. For instance – how do you see yourself? If you see yourself as fat, then how do you know that it is true? Is your judgment based on the facts – like your dress size or your BMI? Or is it part of your negative self-image, that is part of the bigger problem called low self-esteem? In that case, it would be advisable to work through your issues in counselling and then reassess the situation. Or maybe you are told you are overweight by your friends, family, partner? Was it always your role in the family – to be a “fat one”? Reality check will help you see things as they are, not as you imagine them to be.

But what if after careful consideration you have established that you are, indeed, overweight, and would benefit from losing a few pounds?
Then we will need to explore what is it that you are trying to lose?
What your extra weight is for you? On the surface, we might hate being fat and would love to loose weight as soon as possible. But quite often there is a hidden reason why we are staying fat. Unless we discover what it is that is holding us back, all our attempts at dieting will fail.
An example could be my client from Aylesbury, Sarah*, who tried many diets and always ended up putting on more weight that she had lost. When I suggested to Sarah that she imagines herself being thin, she got very anxious and was unable to focus. Exploring the roots of this anxiety, we discovered that, for Sarah, her weight was some kind of protection. Without it, she imagined herself being vulnerable in the hostile world. Working with this vulnerability and restoring my client’s self esteem allowed Sarah to psychologically let go of her extra pounds and she started losing weight slowly but permanently.

Another client, Helen* from Oxford, used her body shape as an excuse for not making changes in her life. She was putting up with a dead end job “because no one is going to hire somebody so fat”. She also avoided thinking about her abusive relationship, “because if she will leave no one else will want her”. Through therapy, Helen’s feeling of self-worth increased dramatically and she subsequently felt able to make necessary changes in her career and relationships. When she stopped using her extra pounds as an excuse for her passivity, she no longer needed them and lost weight naturally.

After you find out what being overweight means for you and achieve clarity, you can then start building a new relationship with food. Your first step will be to find out how is this relationship working at the moment.

*all names have been changed

Weight Management Counselling

fearWhat does your weight mean for you?

When you think about the extra weight you would like to loose – what comes to mind? Are the any metaphors you could use to describe it? Some clients have described their extra pounds as a protective armor, others – as a suffocating wetsuit. Does it feel a part of you or maybe as something extraneous? Could you give it a name?
By discussing the images that comes to mind with your psychotherapist you could discover possible reasons for being overweight and find ways to deal with it.

AnnaStoreyCounselling at W1G

Weight Management

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A Lesson in History

If you were to look back at the history of your weight problems – when did it start? At school, earlier than that, or was it quite recent?
It is very important to remember exactly when you realized you are overweight and decided, that it is a problem. Were there any significant events in your life that precipitated it?
Very often an unresolved trauma from the past can trigger a weight gain. When you process the traumatic event in therapy and “let it go”, extra weight often goes with it.

Weight Management after Christmas 3

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Question no 3:

What does “being overweight” means for you?

Following on from the previous post, we are now going to explore what does your weight mean for you? What is the significance of being big?

When you imagine yourself being thin – how are you feeling?
Happy and energized or, maybe, a bit scared? Has your weight become a sort of “protection” against various problems in your
life? This is a topic worth exploring before starting on a weight
loss regime. If your weight has become your defense, you are unlikely to part with it easily.

For one of my clients being overweight was an excuse to stick with a dead end job. Whenever she started thinking of changing jobs, she told herself that the potential employers will be prejudiced against her because of her weight. Another client stayed in an abusive relationship because she was scared to be left on her own if she were to leave.

Think of any issues and problems that you might be putting off, using your weight as an excuse. Work out solutions now, then becoming thin might not seem so “scary”!

Weight Management after Christmas

anis-2170626_1280January is the time of year when many people start a diet. Before you do so, here are a few questions to ask yourself. If you will be clear with your answers, it will mean that you are ready to get fit and know exactly what you want. If not, you better take some time reflecting upon them and finding your answers.

Question no 1:
How thin is enough?

Working with my clients on weight management issues, I often find that a client really wants to loose weight, but does not know exactly how thin he or she would like to be. If that is a case, however successful your diet will be, you will never feel truly satisfied.
Imagine yourself being the ideal weight – what size are you? what is your weight? how are you feeling? what kind of clothes are you wearing? Write everything down and think again, really become this “thinner you”. When you are absolutely convinced that this is the size and weight you would like to be, you are ready to explore the next question.

LOSING WEIGHT – IS IT ALL IN YOUR HEAD?

Have you tried and failed to loose weight? You started on a popular new diet, cutting out all the things you enjoy eating, lost a few kilos, then, after a stressful day at work, came home and had a pack of biscuits at once. Diet failed, you felt even more miserable and desperate than when you started.
After several similarly unsuccessful attempts you just gave up, hating yourself for the lack of will power.

Try to look at it differently.
Losing weight is not about dieting, depriving yourself of your favorite foods and feeling miserable. It is also not about trying to become someone else – a thin model in a magazine or a celebrity. To really loose weight you have to engage in a slow process of becoming yourself – learning to take care of your needs and listen to your body, starting to like yourself a bit more. As a counsellor, I would agree with the view of Ayurvedic medicine, which states that obesity is often an external manifestation of our emotional problems.
I would not even call this process “loosing weight”. It implies loss and has a negative connotation. I would rather say “getting into shape”, finding your natural weight and staying that way.

So where do we start?
For a start, I would advise to do what in psychotherapy is called “a reality check”. This means looking at your fantasies, anxieties and assumptions and seeing “what is really happening”. For instance – how do you see yourself? If you see yourself as fat, then how do you know that it is true? Is your judgment based on the facts – like your dress size or your BMI? Or is it part of your negative self-image, that is part of the bigger problem called low self-esteem? In that case, it would be advisable to work through your issues in counselling and then reassess the situation. Or maybe you are told you are overweight by your friends, family, partner? Was it always your role in the family – to be a “fat one”? Reality check will help you see things as they are, not as you imagine them to be.

But what if after careful consideration you have established that you are, indeed, overweight, and would benefit from losing a few pounds?
Then we will need to explore what is it that you are trying to lose?
What your extra weight is for you? On the surface, we might hate being fat and would love to loose weight as soon as possible. But quite often there is a hidden reason why we are staying fat. Unless we discover what it is that is holding us back, all our attempts at dieting will fail.
An example could be my client from Aylesbury, Sarah*, who tried many diets and always ended up putting on more weight that she had lost. When I suggested to Sarah that she imagines herself being thin, she got very anxious and was unable to focus. Exploring the roots of this anxiety, we discovered that, for Sarah, her weight was some kind of protection. Without it, she imagined herself being vulnerable in the hostile world. Working with this vulnerability and restoring my client’s self esteem allowed Sarah to psychologically let go of her extra pounds and she started losing weight slowly but permanently.

Another client, Helen* from Oxford, used her body shape as an excuse for not making changes in her life. She was putting up with a dead end job “because no one is going to hire somebody so fat”. She also avoided thinking about her abusive relationship, “because if she will leave no one else will want her”. Through therapy, Helen’s feeling of self-worth increased dramatically and she subsequently felt able to make necessary changes in her career and relationships. When she stopped using her extra pounds as an excuse for her passivity, she no longer needed them and lost weight naturally.

After you find out what being overweight means for you and achieve clarity, you can then start building a new relationship with food. Your first step will be to find out how is this relationship working at the moment.

*all names have been changed